Okay peeps...it's been awhile since I've done my personal blog, and I am finally going to write one!!! I am back to independently coaching for Beachbody, and I am excited about it! I was a coach probably about eight months ago, but I just didn't have the time to put into the business. I am going to really put an effort into it, and hopefully make a supplemental income because of it. If you want more info you can go to...
http://beachbodycoach.com/eringettingfit
http://eringettingfit30/blogspot.com
More bad news on the job front. I interviewed for a job in IA for the Bureau on Monday. I technically didn't have my credentials until Wednesday, but I told them in the interview, and they continued to interview me. On Friday I had a very upsetting phone call. The head of HR called me to tell me that since I didn't have my credentials on the day of the interview, they couldn't hire me. I was told to reapply with my credential number, and if they didn't fill all of the spots they would interview me again in a few weeks. It is very frustrating, and I'm thinking that I have been given a sign that I am not supposed to work in child welfare. I do have a phone interview on Tuesday to work in Crisis Prevention in Rockford, so we'll see what happens with that...it seems like a perfect job to get "school" type experience.
Everything else is going well. I haven't been working too much at Starbucks, so I have been able to spend a lot of time with Jake this week. I also got to see Julie on Friday, so that was a bonus!!! Anyways, now I'm going to have a relaxing Sunday at home with Jake and Thompson. It is my parents' 40th Wedding Anniversary today, so they are going to be in Milwaukee most of the day. I hope everyone else has a fabulous Sunday as well!!! :)
Sunday, June 27, 2010
Thursday, June 24, 2010
Today's blog is kinda random. There hasn't been much going on lately. It is true that I am only working at Starbucks, but I don't understand how it is nearly impossible to make plans with my friends. I think the reason that it is so difficult is that my schedule at work is completely opposite than everyone else that I know. While I'm at work everyone else is free, and vice-a-versa. It is making it difficult to be in a new relationship because of this.
I have been going on quite a few interviews lately...a handful a week...but nothing yet. I just don't understand why I can't find anything? Hopefully my job situation will change soon, so I can actually enjoy part of my summer.
I have been doing pretty good these past few weeks with my workout schedule. P90X is killing me, but I am already seeing some results after just two weeks. I also ordered Chalene's TurboFire, so I am pretty darn excited to combine P90X and TurboFire into a hybrid workout that I have developed. I will be doing each workout three days a week instead of the six that you are supposed to...it will workout to six workouts a week with one day off. I will keep everyone posted on my progress. Speaking of workouts...it's time to get to it for my morning workout!!! Later peeps... :)
I have been going on quite a few interviews lately...a handful a week...but nothing yet. I just don't understand why I can't find anything? Hopefully my job situation will change soon, so I can actually enjoy part of my summer.
I have been doing pretty good these past few weeks with my workout schedule. P90X is killing me, but I am already seeing some results after just two weeks. I also ordered Chalene's TurboFire, so I am pretty darn excited to combine P90X and TurboFire into a hybrid workout that I have developed. I will be doing each workout three days a week instead of the six that you are supposed to...it will workout to six workouts a week with one day off. I will keep everyone posted on my progress. Speaking of workouts...it's time to get to it for my morning workout!!! Later peeps... :)
Saturday, June 19, 2010
"relationships"...
Let's see...I've been thinking about this blog all day...trying to decide the best way to write it. I'm sure most of you have figured out that I am seeing someone pretty exclusively. This time around I am trying not to put labels on my relationships too fast, and just wait to see where they go. That is exactly what I am doing with this guy, and he is amazing!
We have no label on our relationship...we like to spend time together...we are not rushing into anything. He has taught me that whatever is supposed to happen will happen. Maybe that's why we've been brought together by whatever "force" made that happen. I think that he was brought to me to teach me that "good things come to those who wait." If we had met at another point in our lives, our relationship might not be working out as well as it is.
This relationship has also taught me that I should honestly wait for the right job to come to me too. I have been interviewing for a lot of jobs that don't meet my standards financially or are part-time. I need to look more carefully at the jobs that I'm applying for an interviewing for so I don't alter my standards when it comes to a job. I didn't alter my standards when finding someone to date, so I am going to do the same in my professional life. I am sensing good things a brewing, so I am just going to be patient and let them come to me.
Well, it is now getting pretty late, so it's time for bed!!!
We have no label on our relationship...we like to spend time together...we are not rushing into anything. He has taught me that whatever is supposed to happen will happen. Maybe that's why we've been brought together by whatever "force" made that happen. I think that he was brought to me to teach me that "good things come to those who wait." If we had met at another point in our lives, our relationship might not be working out as well as it is.
This relationship has also taught me that I should honestly wait for the right job to come to me too. I have been interviewing for a lot of jobs that don't meet my standards financially or are part-time. I need to look more carefully at the jobs that I'm applying for an interviewing for so I don't alter my standards when it comes to a job. I didn't alter my standards when finding someone to date, so I am going to do the same in my professional life. I am sensing good things a brewing, so I am just going to be patient and let them come to me.
Well, it is now getting pretty late, so it's time for bed!!!
Thursday, June 17, 2010
adult children and their parents
I've been recently thinking about the relationships that adult children have with their parents. I was thinking about the comparison of adult children that have moved out 10-15 years ago, and children that have been moved out for many years that have to move back due to extenuating circumstances.
Myself for example moved back in with my parents after being on my own for eight years. The reason I had to move back is because I was pregnant, left my son's dad, and needed somewhere to stay. I have stayed with my parents for the past four years because I was finishing school, and haven't yet found a job that can help me afford the basics of life.
I have also thought about how honest adult children are with their parents. I know that I am fairly honest with my parents, but I do tend to "omit" certain things from my conversations with my parents. My mother especially, is very interested in the things that I do with my free time...be it my relationships, school, or friends. I tend to omit things that I don't really think they need to know. I don't consider this lying, but do they really need to know everything that I am doing?
Our parents tend to put unneeded pressure on us, and have very high expectations. I know that my parents are very proud of the things that I have accomplished, but I know that they want me to find someone to settle down with. Also, my dad has been putting additional pressure on my to start my PhD already. I just don't know what I could do to make them 100% happy with what I am doing. It is frustrating, but I know that it's just because they care about me.
I may have to consider moving out when I have enough money to pay rent, not when I have enough money to buy a house. I just honestly think that the best thing that I can do for our relationship is to move out, and act like I'm actually 30-years-old. Separating from my parents by moving out seems to be the answer!!!
Myself for example moved back in with my parents after being on my own for eight years. The reason I had to move back is because I was pregnant, left my son's dad, and needed somewhere to stay. I have stayed with my parents for the past four years because I was finishing school, and haven't yet found a job that can help me afford the basics of life.
I have also thought about how honest adult children are with their parents. I know that I am fairly honest with my parents, but I do tend to "omit" certain things from my conversations with my parents. My mother especially, is very interested in the things that I do with my free time...be it my relationships, school, or friends. I tend to omit things that I don't really think they need to know. I don't consider this lying, but do they really need to know everything that I am doing?
Our parents tend to put unneeded pressure on us, and have very high expectations. I know that my parents are very proud of the things that I have accomplished, but I know that they want me to find someone to settle down with. Also, my dad has been putting additional pressure on my to start my PhD already. I just don't know what I could do to make them 100% happy with what I am doing. It is frustrating, but I know that it's just because they care about me.
I may have to consider moving out when I have enough money to pay rent, not when I have enough money to buy a house. I just honestly think that the best thing that I can do for our relationship is to move out, and act like I'm actually 30-years-old. Separating from my parents by moving out seems to be the answer!!!
Tuesday, June 15, 2010
time...why is it important?
Let's see...it's my second day off from work in a row...one more to go! I have been doing a lot of relaxing, reflecting, and finishing everything on my "list" each day. I have also been doing a lot of mental reflecting, and feeling pretty good about myself. I have been actually taking time for me, which is a great feeling!
Right now I'm eating breakfast with Jake...thinking about what I want to blog about today. As I think to myself about what is significant to me today...I automatically think about time. When you are reconnecting with an old friend, or seeing someone that you haven't seen in awhile...they always ask you questions regarding time.
Examples:
People are always asking what my plans are after grad school...when are you going to get a job...where are you going to work...when are you going to quit Starbucks? I really don't know the answer to any of those questions, and I'm okay with that. I am really trying to get a new job, but I am stressing over it...depressing myself.
I'm just going to continue living my life for me, having fun for as long as I possibly can, and working on myself...because that's really what it should be all about! :)
Right now I'm eating breakfast with Jake...thinking about what I want to blog about today. As I think to myself about what is significant to me today...I automatically think about time. When you are reconnecting with an old friend, or seeing someone that you haven't seen in awhile...they always ask you questions regarding time.
Examples:
- How old is your kid?
- How much longer to you have in school?
- How long have you been dating/married?
- How long have you been working there?
- What have been doing in the past few years?
- How much money do you make?
- How many kids do you want to have?
- How old are you?
People are always asking what my plans are after grad school...when are you going to get a job...where are you going to work...when are you going to quit Starbucks? I really don't know the answer to any of those questions, and I'm okay with that. I am really trying to get a new job, but I am stressing over it...depressing myself.
I'm just going to continue living my life for me, having fun for as long as I possibly can, and working on myself...because that's really what it should be all about! :)
Friday, June 11, 2010
the end...it's just the beginning...
Today I was sitting in Starbucks in Brookfield after my WEAP interview, just thinking. "I have nothing I have to be doing. I am actually reading a book for fun!" It was a great feeling, and I think I finally realized that school is completely over! It was an amazing feeling!!! :)
I realized that I could actually start spending more time with Jake, exercising, and having fun! I can meet new people, and not always worry about what's going to happen. I want to have fun in my relationships, and not think about the next step...putting deadlines on things...having to "define" every little thing!
I am going to start acting my age, looking for jobs that meet my standards of pay and population served, and realize that I have accomplished a lot! It's true that I may be a single mother, working at Starbucks, and essentially single and unmarried...but it feels good to be uncertain for once.
It is true that I still think that I won't find "Mr Right" at a bar, but why do I have to go out and find him...maybe he should be finding me? I am going to think about each guy I meet as someone to have fun with. If they don't meet my standards right away, I am not going to waste my time putting a "label" on the relationship...
Here's an example...I met a great guy a few weeks ago...of course online. He is an amazing guy, and I am having a blast getting to know him. Our first date was amazing and so much fun. I have a few more dates lined up with him next week, and I am stoked to be getting to know him better. He actually does meet all of my basic standards...
I realized that I could actually start spending more time with Jake, exercising, and having fun! I can meet new people, and not always worry about what's going to happen. I want to have fun in my relationships, and not think about the next step...putting deadlines on things...having to "define" every little thing!
I am going to start acting my age, looking for jobs that meet my standards of pay and population served, and realize that I have accomplished a lot! It's true that I may be a single mother, working at Starbucks, and essentially single and unmarried...but it feels good to be uncertain for once.
It is true that I still think that I won't find "Mr Right" at a bar, but why do I have to go out and find him...maybe he should be finding me? I am going to think about each guy I meet as someone to have fun with. If they don't meet my standards right away, I am not going to waste my time putting a "label" on the relationship...
Here's an example...I met a great guy a few weeks ago...of course online. He is an amazing guy, and I am having a blast getting to know him. Our first date was amazing and so much fun. I have a few more dates lined up with him next week, and I am stoked to be getting to know him better. He actually does meet all of my basic standards...
- over 6' (he's 6'5")
- dark hair
- no facial hair
- in the same weight range for his height as I am
- college degree
- good paying job
- one child
- likes to go out and have a good time
- great sense of humor
- intellectually stimulating
- attractive
Tuesday, June 8, 2010
the last few days...
Well, this is my last week at my internship, and at 1pm on Thursday it will be all over! I am excited to get started with my social work career, but sad to leave the place I've been working for the past nine months. I've also realized through my recent job search that it's really tough out there! The economy is bad, so it's really hard to find a job.
As I think about my recent struggles in this area, I think constantly about what I do have. I do have a job at Starbucks. Next week I start working exclusively at Starbucks, and I'm feeling pretty good about it. I'm going to be working about 30-hours-per-week with three days off. This gives me a lot of free time to apply for jobs and go on interviews, exercise, work with my horses, spend time with Jake, and spend time with my friends. Sometimes I think that God wants me to spend some time on myself before I start working full-time.
In the past week I've had more fun than I have had in a very long time. I have been spending lots of time with Jake, seeing my friends, and meeting new people. Last Saturday was my last day of graduate school, and after class I had a "free day!" I went out to lunch with my classmates, chilled at Barnes & Noble, hung out at Courtney's apartment, and then went out for dinner and drinks with a new friend. I had so much fun that I forgot I was in my 30's with a 3-year-old at home. I didn't forget these things in a negative way...it was all positive!
Hmmm...maybe I should explain that last statement a little bit better! For the past four years I have felt the true stress of being a single parent. When I moved back in with my parents on June 21st 2006, I was five-months pregnant and feeling all alone. I had no friends, no job, no degree, and was moving back in with my parents at the age of 26. For the first month that it took me to get a job, I did a lot of thinking...
I thought about impending motherhood, my present life situation, and my future. I knew that I could not support myself and my son without a college degree. During the months up to my son's birth I thought about what I wanted to do with my life. I thought about my strengths and my past. I thought about the degrees that UW-Whitewater offered...I thought about Social Work. It was decided shortly after that...Social Work was going to be my ideal career.
January 2007, two months after Jake was born, it all started! I was now a single mother, full-time college student, and working part-time. It was hard, and got even harder when I started interning...working for free!!! Now that it is all finally coming to a close, I have some anxiety...I'm not going to lie. I do worry what it's going to be like when I'm completely done with this degree at the end of the week. I've been a student for so long that I don't know what it's like to not be a student. Only time will tell...
As I think about my recent struggles in this area, I think constantly about what I do have. I do have a job at Starbucks. Next week I start working exclusively at Starbucks, and I'm feeling pretty good about it. I'm going to be working about 30-hours-per-week with three days off. This gives me a lot of free time to apply for jobs and go on interviews, exercise, work with my horses, spend time with Jake, and spend time with my friends. Sometimes I think that God wants me to spend some time on myself before I start working full-time.
In the past week I've had more fun than I have had in a very long time. I have been spending lots of time with Jake, seeing my friends, and meeting new people. Last Saturday was my last day of graduate school, and after class I had a "free day!" I went out to lunch with my classmates, chilled at Barnes & Noble, hung out at Courtney's apartment, and then went out for dinner and drinks with a new friend. I had so much fun that I forgot I was in my 30's with a 3-year-old at home. I didn't forget these things in a negative way...it was all positive!
Hmmm...maybe I should explain that last statement a little bit better! For the past four years I have felt the true stress of being a single parent. When I moved back in with my parents on June 21st 2006, I was five-months pregnant and feeling all alone. I had no friends, no job, no degree, and was moving back in with my parents at the age of 26. For the first month that it took me to get a job, I did a lot of thinking...
I thought about impending motherhood, my present life situation, and my future. I knew that I could not support myself and my son without a college degree. During the months up to my son's birth I thought about what I wanted to do with my life. I thought about my strengths and my past. I thought about the degrees that UW-Whitewater offered...I thought about Social Work. It was decided shortly after that...Social Work was going to be my ideal career.
January 2007, two months after Jake was born, it all started! I was now a single mother, full-time college student, and working part-time. It was hard, and got even harder when I started interning...working for free!!! Now that it is all finally coming to a close, I have some anxiety...I'm not going to lie. I do worry what it's going to be like when I'm completely done with this degree at the end of the week. I've been a student for so long that I don't know what it's like to not be a student. Only time will tell...
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